posted by NanaKrustofski,
While these are two opposite extremes and N0tail misusing a word once might not cause an apocalypse, one thing is certain: It is hurtful. And it goes beyond a "crybaby special snowflake" attitude, where some people make a fuss out of something rather mundane – it is a fundamental issue.
There's a huge lack of diversity in Dota so I understand how words like faggot can become easily bantered around, but please take a moment to consider the repercussions of trivialising an insult like that, that's used to hurt queer people like me. Practice love. 😔🖤
— Sheepo 🦦 (@sheepsticked) December 27, 2019
Discussions are not only sparked when it comes to homophobic remarks, but also about racist jokes. The debate between Henrik 'AdmiralBulldog' Ahnberg and Trent "TrentPax" MacKenzie is another recent example. Bulldog is known for his rather "edgy humour" and obviously does not seem to have any malicious ulterior motive or actual hatred in him. But it is important to note that the humour shared by him and most of his followers is not the standard among society.
While all kinds of jokes and remarks are allowed among a group of persons, as long as all individuals are okay with it, it is a different case when others are involved.
Most you already know this but for the comments "My friend is x, we make x jokes all the time"-- that tweet wasn't meant for you. People have different kinds of humor. It becomes an issue when you start forcing your kind of humor on others that are made uncomfortable by it.
— Moxxi (@MoxxiCasts) December 6, 2019
Another important issue is to realize, that it is not the single usage of a slur or remark that is hurtful, it is the fact that affected people face these problems constantly. It is not the one time you read a potentially hurtful message, it is the fact that you have to read it over and over again for years, and each repetition reminds you off all the hardships you had to endure.
Misogynistic behaviour is another burning point, not only in Dota, but in gaming and esports in general (and basically in every aspect of life, like all the other mentioned problems). Over time, you become more sensitive against attacks or jokes. Often, the counterpart does not realize how hurtful the words were and of course they do not know what a person had to endure so far. But this is another reason to hold back critical humour when playing with strangers.
Toxic behaviour, flaming and trash talk – yes, they have been a part of gaming since its existence. And yes, some insults or jokes are certainly funny, but there are also boundaries. Sometimes they can be stretched, but they can also be crossed. And if people are explaining that a certain language and attitude is hurting, it might be time to reconsider your behaviour.
Dota is a public area, so when you play with strangers, it is no longer the enclosed space you share with your friends. People have different values, feelings and opinions than you and your acquaintances. You can continue all kinds of humour in the most extreme ways you want to – but it is also your responsibility that you do not annoy or hurt others with it.
What is your take on toxic jokes?
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